Tips from the SBCT

• Don’t let small grievances fester. Addressing them early can prevent misunderstandings from growing into larger disputes. Approach the person involved as soon as possible to discuss your concerns.
• Initiate a Calm Conversation: Approach other person when both of you are relaxed and have time to talk.
• Express Your Feelings: Use “I” statements to avoid sounding accusatory.
• Collaborate on Solutions: Work together to find a solution.

• Conflict is Normal: Every individual has unique perspectives, experiences, and values. These differences can naturally lead to disagreements.
• Opportunity for Growth: It provides an opportunity to learn more about yourself and others, develop better communication skills, and strengthen relationships through resolution and understanding.
• Setting Healthy Boundaries: By discussing what behaviors are acceptable and what aren’t, relationships can become more respectful and balanced.

This is a powerful principle that emphasizes the importance of understanding and connecting with others on an emotional level before attempting to educate or persuade them. This approach fosters a respectful and supportive environment, making it more likely that communication and learning will be effective.

• Find a quiet, neutral location where you can talk privately without distractions. Ensure that both parties have enough time to engage in a meaningful conversation.
• After the initial conversation, check in with the person to see how things are going. This shows that you are committed to resolving the conflict and maintaining a positive relationship.
• Seek Mediation if Needed: If you find that even small conflicts are difficult to resolve on your own, don’t hesitate to seek help.

This is a crucial communication technique that ensures clarity, reduces misunderstandings, and fosters effective interactions.

• Try restating what the other person has said in your own words.
• Summarize the main points of the conversation to confirm your understanding.
• Reflect the emotions you perceive in the other person’s message.
• Ask questions to clarify any points that are unclear or ambiguous.
• Explicitly check any assumptions you might be making.
• Encourage the other person to correct you if your understanding is inaccurate

• Connect with a Financial Aid Advisor
• Basic Needs Resource Hub
• The Career Design Center
• Student Employment
• The Pantry

• The Student Loaner Technology Program is designed to provide students with temporary access to technology resources to support their academic success. This program is particularly beneficial during times when students may not have access to their own devices or when they require specific technology for a short-term need.

• Textbook Assistance: Drake Memorial Library has items for your courses available at Circulation, click “course reserves.”
  • Students can also inquire with their instructor if a text is on reserve (Library) and/or talk with a peer about sharing the textbook(s).

• Set small, achievable goals for social interactions.
• Practice positive self-talk and affirmations.
• Keep a journal of your social interactions and progress.
• Spend time thinking about your ideal social circle. Do you prefer having many acquaintances or a few close friends? Understanding your preferences can guide you in seeking out the right types of relationships.

• Whether it be a campus wide event, club event or residence hall event, after attending take a few minutes to reflect on the experience:
  • What did you enjoy?
  • What could have gone better?
  • How did you feel in that social setting?
• Check out the Events Calendar
• Download the Campus Recreation App on the Apple App Store or Google Play
  • Access the SERC without needing a physical ID.
  • Stay up-to-date with facility schedules and Fitness Center hours.
  • Check the current busyness of the facility.
• Ask your RA what events are taking place in your building

Find your place at Brockport by joining a club or organization. 

• Student Union Leadership & Activities (SULA)
• Clubs & Organizations

• There’s a wealth of resources and opportunities to help you build friendships, enhance your university experience, and achieve personal and academic success.
• Assess your social needs and challenges. Consider scheduling a session with the Counseling Center to discuss these insights.
• The Center for Gender and Sexual Diversity and the Joey Jackson Intercultural Center, promote inclusivity and provide support for students from diverse backgrounds.
• Academic support services, help you succeed academically while providing opportunities to meet other students.

• Set achievable and realistic goals for your social interactions. Start with small, manageable steps and gradually increase your comfort level.
• By practicing patience and persistence, you’re giving yourself the opportunity to grow and develop meaningful connections over time.
• Remember that building friendships is a gradual process.
• Remind yourself that everyone experiences social anxiety at times and that it’s a normal part of making new friends.
• Take time for self-care and relaxation to avoid feeling overwhelmed.